Where has romance gone?
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By: Devin Moore Contributing Writer, BlackVegas.com
One afternoon a text message was sent to Eric’s main squeeze. Eric invited Shavonne out to a date that would take place on the Las Vegas Strip consisting of drinking, drinking, and dranking! She accepted the offer but once the date was over and the night was intimate her thoughts once she arrived home was “where is the romance now days”?
Many women echo the same sentiments as Shavonne when they talk with their friends or closet BFF’s (Best Friends For Life) or send out a tweet via their android phone. Is romance sitting in the museum next to dinosaurs? Why is romance disappearing in love relationships? Has the pop culture and rhythm and blues music of sexuality dictated our intent, appetites, and immediate gratification needs so much that all interactions must be placed into the microwave versus slowly baked, grilled or even fried? In relationships experiences, have we reduced our passions and interests to immediate sexuality opposed to valuable intimacy through the path and channels of romance which often yield healthier, stronger relationships?
In the mind of many men romance is costly and in the economy of 2011 it is not always affordable, or is it? Are there some low cost ways for men to be romantic? As men, we often consider in our mind, how will the women look or perceive the romance that we present? We also ask ourselves the silent and private questions of how do I measure up in comparison to other men that she has dated and how do I measure up to her standards, to her expectations? The trivial and challenging questions often become so cumbersome that as men, we choose to not be romantic all together. Women deserve romance, but has the environment of romance developed too many expectations that are never communicated, yet always desired, anticipated, while rarely enjoyed.
The issue that often gets lost, even overlooked is do men deserve romance also? Is the love relationship experience a one way street in the sphere of romance; women get it, men give it? For so long, romance has been a one way street and maybe, just maybe that is the reason that it has and is on life support, with only a few bleeps, a few pulses left!
Devin Moore
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glassvisage Level 5 Commenter 10 months ago
I believe that romance diminishes over time in society and in each relationship. I think you bring up a good point that men deserve romance too, and some men may not feel motivated to be as romantic because they are not romanticized back. I try to do what I can to be spontaneous and romantic... and also hope that it is reciprocated! :) Thanks for the Hub.